How to live with sensitivity:

13 Jul

One of my readers told me to write about ‘advice on how not to be sensitive’. This article or the previous article is not about ‘how not to be sensitive’, because, I will not tell anyone that being sensitive is something wrong or to be changed.  In the first article, I was telling it is a good trait in you. In this article, what I am saying is how to live with your sensitivity.

I saw this site about highly sensitive people. (don’t know much about authenticity). – I like this: “your brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. So even if you wear glasses, for example, you see more than others by noticing more.” But if people can upset or make you cry without lifting a finger –something needs to be done there.

First of all- accept that ‘sensitivity’ is a part of your personality. What you need to learn is how to manage life as a sensitive person.

  1. Remember- everyone cannot understand you. Comments from unknown people and strangers needs to be ignored. If it is a friend, try to communicate your feelings to avoid that in future.
  2. Be honest about what you feel, how you feel.
  3. Don’t suppress your feelings. If you feel to cry, just cry. If you feel to laugh, just laugh. Don’t think too much like ‘what people think of me if I do that or this.’
  4. Learn to express your feelings….especially to people you care. You have to express it regardless of the outcome. If you keep it in heart, it will make you stressful.
  5. Learn to let go. Sometimes it is unavoidable.
  6. If you are a listener, try to be sympathetic not empathetic.
  7. If you have too much burden in yourself…like worries and anxieties, try not to take other’s worries in yourself or limit it to an extent. You have to tell that you are incapable of taking their problems and find solution.
  8. Seek medical help if you cannot manage anymore.

Sensitivity is in a person; It is like fragrance in a  flower. Accept who you are. Life is a learning, learn to live with what you have- with your sensitivity.

  1. vp ahmed

    July 13, 2011 at 10:10 am

    Thank you. I found these instructions very genuine and helpful.

  2. Daisy V-Spilker

    July 14, 2011 at 12:57 am

    Thank you so much for your kind words.

  3. stuart

    August 12, 2012 at 9:52 pm

    Yes i find it very hard i am a 32 yr old male and suffer from
    If you are sensitive to comments it makes you feel very uncomfortable and then you avoid people.
    Can stop you from living your life tidy a total loss of confidence.
    And then you find yourself waiting for the next comment off
    that person!

  4. Daisy V-Spilker

    September 1, 2012 at 7:05 pm

    Yes, it is hard…especially if you have Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). It will be good if you have someone to talk about your feelings, who can make you feel comfortable and worthy.