“How not to be so sensitive”

16 Aug

Some people think that being sensitive is something wrong. They think when you cry in front of others it makes them look weak. When you cry seeing a movie, people laugh at it.

Is being sensitive something to be changed in you?

What do we mean by being sensitive? Being sensitive and self-pity are totally different.

Self-pity arises from low self-esteem, sensitiveness arises from compassion.
While self-pity is selfishness, sensitiveness is giving.
Self pity makes you lose reasons; sensitiveness makes you realize reasons.
Self-pity is stubbornness; but sensitiveness listen to others.
Self-pity is denial; sensitiveness is acceptance.

If you are having self pity, that needs to be removed. To do so, you have to feel confident in yourself. Being a good human with sensitiveness is a great strength and virtue. If you are sensitive, be grateful and proud about that–don’t ever change it–be the sensitive YOU always.


Update: One of my readers told me to write about ‘advice on how not to be sensitive’. Here it is:  How to live with sensitivity. This article or the previous article is not about ‘how not to be sensitive’, because, I will not tell anyone that being sensitive is something wrong or to be changed.


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  1. Marina Thmpson

    October 4, 2009 at 5:20 am

    Loved your expressions and explanation of sensitive and self-pity. I’m reading everything and so enjoying it. When I am reading, it is much more meaninful and planted in me because I know your heart and face. You are such a blessing and amazing authentic and you have touched my heart, or should I say pierced, changed. You Go Girl. I’m going to share your site with my friends. I will be checking in to get my spiritual norishment regularly. Love you Ms Daisy

  2. Anonymous

    July 6, 2011 at 12:25 pm

    I’m sorry, but NO. Being sensitive makes me stressed and it’s making me unhappy. People making me upset or cry without lifting a finger is not something I can appreciate. Maybe if I were more like Jesus.

    If somebody is going to write about how not to be so sensitive, make sure it actually has advice on how to do so instead of trying to dissuade those of us who want to be made of stone.

  3. Daisy V-Spilker

    July 13, 2011 at 7:24 am

    Hi Anonymous, you could’ve told directly to the writer-right? Why you have to address ‘somebody’? Why you cannot put your name? Why you have to hide? If you can learn frankness… expressing what is in mind directly to the person… may help in your problem. I wrote another article – Read it. How to live with your sensitivity.

  4. Charita J

    March 15, 2012 at 7:17 pm

    Hello Daisy V-Spiker.I am the anonymous commenter and I stand by what I state back then. I am not hiding and don’t care anymore about this. Ever since I have stopped caring about everything I have not been sensitive. Apathy has worked for me and I will not accept being sniveling, and whiny person when somebody hurts my feelings is a good thing. Now when people try to offend me, they can’t.

  5. Daisy V-Spilker

    March 31, 2012 at 12:22 am

    Thanks Charita. I am glad about you. But I will not agree with you that ‘apathy’ is good. “Apathy is a state of indifference, or the suppression of emotions such as concern, excitement, motivation and passion. An apathetic individual has an absence of interest in or concern about emotional, social, spiritual, philosophical and/or physical life. They may lack a sense of purpose or meaning in their life. ” (Wikepedia) Is that it? You want to live without sense of purpose or meaning?

    I am a sensitive person and I am proud of it. That is what makes me a human. People can hurt me, I feel so much, and I cry….but never, ever, I will let them control me. I will express my feelings to myself, then if it is someone I care- I talk to them what I felt and try to make everything clear. If it is someone I don’t care, I just ignore them. I will never let their words or actions control my life.

    It is in our will that how we are going to mold our life. People can say 1000 things…but bringing it into life is in each individual- in our will.