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How can we feel successful?

09 Apr

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Success is defined in different ways, in different countries and cultures. Most of the time, it is money and power. Recently when I heard about a cancer survivor(Lance Armstrong) who cheated all the people who looked upon him for inspiration, I felt really sad. Is money and power ‘success’? If success should make a person happy, all those ‘successful’ people are happy in their life? Did you ever wonder why people are never satisfied with their bank savings? Are millionaires the most successful people? Money is never enough for most millionaires as well.

How we should look at success in our life? How we put measures on it? Every individual defines success in their way depending upon experiences and perception of society they live in. Achieving something is a success for many. Think about something you wanted so badly in the past….assuming that is the greatest achievement? When you got that, you felt so happy and proud. But after a few months or years, do you feel the same excitement you had first? Yes, or maybe not. Now you will be looking for something better than that; the other achievement became ordinary and not so important. So the feeling of success is momentary? How can we feel successful always?

Success is momentary when we look upon it in a narrow-minded way. If power and money are the only success for us, then we will never feel successful and satisfied. Look at our life as one entire picture. If anything in the past still makes you smile and feel so good about yourself, then that is a success. If you wanted something and tried for it, it is a success even if you didn’t achieve it the way you want, because you tried your best for it. Remember, many people didn’t even bother to try.

Define your success differently than other people or society think of. Sacrificing money and career for the loved ones seems foolish for some people. They will not understand the contentment and happiness it provides. It may not be a success for others, but that should not matter to the person in us. Success must be something that makes you feel good about yourself, proud of being the ‘you’. So we can define success this way: if you improved something from the state where it was before, it is a success. Success is something that makes you proud of yourself; makes you feel worthy of yourself.

The most successful person is the one who is content with himself or herself. Then this world will look different with bright colors and excitement. Life becomes joyful. Success will come to them since they feel successful.

So every time you take a new step in life, feel successful… feel good about yourself!

 
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“Love your enemy” – who is my enemy?

09 Aug

One of the famous words from Jesus is ‘love your enemy’. But is it possible to love enemies in real life? Who is my enemy?

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“How not to be so sensitive”

16 Aug

Some people think that being sensitive is something wrong. They think when you cry in front of others it makes them look weak. When you cry seeing a movie, people laugh at it.

Is being sensitive something to be changed in you?

What do we mean by being sensitive? Being sensitive and self-pity are totally different.

Self-pity arises from low self-esteem, sensitiveness arises from compassion.
While self-pity is selfishness, sensitiveness is giving.
Self pity makes you lose reasons; sensitiveness makes you realize reasons.
Self-pity is stubbornness; but sensitiveness listen to others.
Self-pity is denial; sensitiveness is acceptance.

If you are having self pity, that needs to be removed. To do so, you have to feel confident in yourself. Being a good human with sensitiveness is a great strength and virtue. If you are sensitive, be grateful and proud about that–don’t ever change it–be the sensitive YOU always.

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Update: One of my readers told me to write about ‘advice on how not to be sensitive’. Here it is:  How to live with sensitivity. This article or the previous article is not about ‘how not to be sensitive’, because, I will not tell anyone that being sensitive is something wrong or to be changed.