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A salute to stay home parents!

29 Sep

I have come across many stay home parents– mostly women. Some of them are content in what they are doing, but some have had an unworthy feeling. Read the rest of this entry »

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Keys for long lasting happy marriage:How to have a happy marriage life.

14 Sep

Long lasting happy marriage ? Is it only in movies? No. You can have a happy marriage life too. They keys are in you. It is your attitude which makes marriage life happy.

When my in-laws celebrated their 48th wedding anniversary, I asked them what is the secret for their marriage? They said ,“ We live each day, regardless of whether it is good or bad. Each day is a new day in our marriage.”

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“How not to be so sensitive”

16 Aug

Some people think that being sensitive is something wrong. They think when you cry in front of others it makes them look weak. When you cry seeing a movie, people laugh at it.

Is being sensitive something to be changed in you?

What do we mean by being sensitive? Being sensitive and self-pity are totally different.

Self-pity arises from low self-esteem, sensitiveness arises from compassion.
While self-pity is selfishness, sensitiveness is giving.
Self pity makes you lose reasons; sensitiveness makes you realize reasons.
Self-pity is stubbornness; but sensitiveness listen to others.
Self-pity is denial; sensitiveness is acceptance.

If you are having self pity, that needs to be removed. To do so, you have to feel confident in yourself. Being a good human with sensitiveness is a great strength and virtue. If you are sensitive, be grateful and proud about that–don’t ever change it–be the sensitive YOU always.


Update: One of my readers told me to write about ‘advice on how not to be sensitive’. Here it is:  How to live with sensitivity. This article or the previous article is not about ‘how not to be sensitive’, because, I will not tell anyone that being sensitive is something wrong or to be changed.


Relations are complicated, but precious:

15 Aug

Too many emotions, prejudices of society, and perceptions of individuals are weaved together in relations in a very complicated way. Each person is different and that makes it more difficult in relations. Read the rest of this entry »

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Do I do things to make this world a better place?

14 Aug

Without knowing also, we did make a change in this world. We help people in different ways. Like our parents we bring up our children, we help our family and friends. We do our boring, maybe routine work…but in the web of society we help each other with that job.

Everyone cannot be like Mother Teresa, Martin Luther King or Helen Keller. But everyone can be who they are, and do what they can. Read the rest of this entry »

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‘To be me always’

03 Aug

I try my best to be me always. I remember in my school days, when I was around fifteen, I wrote in some autograph to some of my friends about my goal in life- ‘I just want to be me always’.  For keeping memories, friends took autograph from each other. I am wondering now, what they would have been thinking reading that? It seems so crazy if people do not understand what it means.

‘To be you’- means- be honest to the person in you.

Most of the time we live as some one in the society. Am I right? Think about it. How many times we do the things we don’t want to? How many times we say the things we don’t want to? In the workplace, family… most everywhere we do that often.

But can I be me always? Sometimes we have to consider relationships, culture, rules and regulations, ..etc. It is difficult if we want to live in the society as an ordinary person. People will hate us if we say whatever we feel. A good solution is, bring the common sense and humor and avoid situations where you cannot say the truth.

It is a trying always. It is a fight sometimes… but it is worth trying to be the real ‘YOU’.


Everyone is unique

03 Aug

We all live such busy lives that we don’t have time to think of ourselves. When you look into the mirror, do you think that ‘I am unique’?

If not, do it. Stand in front of a mirror. Look at yourself from top to bottom. Your head, forehead, eyes, nose….is there anyone just like you in this big world? Isn’t that amazing that there is only one person in this whole world just like you? Even identical twins will be different in many aspects.

If you look different from others, ask why you have to be like others? You can be different. Accept yourself as you are with your pluses and minuses. Love yourself.   If you don’t love yourself, nobody can love you or you cannot give much to others. Do you know why?

When you love yourself, you will be satisfied in who you are, what you have, and you will have time for others to seek the same.

In society we are all under pressure. We try to imitate or impress others by being someone else. Sometimes it kills us to not be the person who we truly are. But it is a part of life, society. There have been people who have lived as themselves in spite of societal pressures. They faced many challenges from society, but their perseverance to be themselves has made society better. Take any great thinker or artist. In their lives we can see that quest in them to be themselves in order to bring beauty to this world. They had to sacrifice a lot of things for that beautiful life. That may not be possible for us. But try your best each day. When we do that– when we try to be the real person in us– only then will we realize the beauty of this life.